Here is a rule to seduction. A serious sexual thought casts a spell on your eyes. It helps you hold a seductive glare a moment longer. It demands attention, after all– sex sells, and at the end of the day you are doing just that: selling yourself to the world around you.This works particuarly well when you feel a strong sexual chemistry with another individual. I will use an example, let’s call him… Dave.Dave was a manager training at a restaurant I’d worked at as a hostess in my second year of university. He was 35. I was 19. I’d loved him from the moment I’d met him, I wanted him, I had to have him.I worked closely with Dave for weeks knowing he was to be transfered to a location far from my location within a matter or a month, so I had to act fast.I began to build a relationship, he was unusually socially intelligent and so I knew it would be difficult to get to the level I needed to get considering this fact, and adding it to my limited time frame.I began with witty banter and sharp comments, I would flirt with him shamelessly but compliment him with a back-handed flip. I would comment on everything and hold to my opinions, but comment on only what I knew I had enough knowledge on to argue. I would pick random topics to play this out with, making him believe that I had an uncanny intellect of which could challenge his.I was also as socially intelligent as he was. I made it clear, I was friendly and polite, flirty and conservative, completely over the top yet never once crossed the line.My intuition also guided me through this, I had known he wanted me at first glance even though he’d worked overtime to hide this.I couldn’t stop thinking about how amazing our hard intellectual chemistry would translate in conjunction with the underlying sexual chemistry that I knew we were both feeling. I know I felt the sexual chemistry first, and after I’d built an intellectual passage-way, I worked hard to make a sexual connection. I began to visualize sexually passionate moments when he would speak to me. I had to be careful to find a balance between keeping the witty conversation flowing, but tapping into the sexual energy. Sexuality is fluid. I’ve learned that over the years. It’s everywhere, at all times, it is there. Malsow agrees with this in his hierarchy of needs. People need, first and foremost– food, water, shelter and sex. Sex is a crucial aspect of the human existence. It’s the glue that is holding many unhealthy relationships around the world, it brings people together, and tears them apart. They don’t say “sex is power” for nothing, and though potent, when used correctly it is highly effective.It took three days, perhaps four– less than a week, before Dave began to respond. Eventually, the passion had grown so outrageous that the bubble of emotion that had started to build from the intellect and sex had to explode. I planned the day, it was the day he was leaving. He walked up behind me at a server’s station and said “Sexy lady-in-red at table 60! Just sat down with a beautiful dress that covers all of her beautiful curves, and the hottest mile-high heels to match!” He’d never done that before. I was outraged. I turned around, looked at his face studying mine for a reaction, thought fast and gave him one:”You know. You can’t go making stupid comments about women like that. You’re an asshole, Dave…And I’m totally crazy about you.” Boom. It was said. It was strong and I’d taken a gamble, but I felt comfortable with it because:
- It was staged
- It was well thought
- I didn’t really let my emotions get involved to cloud my judgement.